Today I was scrolling back through my life, like looking back down this road I chose, but in reverse. And as I was watching this, like a virtual flip book (thanks Facebook) I thought: wow, I really lived, and wow, what a mess I made! But I noticed the same few people pop in and out of the different chapters of my life; my sisters, who were there through the chaos, and destruction, and separate paths of self discovery. It's like we had all these different lifetimes together, and though they all looked so different, they each had that same love.
There were so many seasons that I'd forgotten about; (mostly because they felt like ages ago, but also because we weren't always all there) the college parties, man, the crash after a long night of drinking (very unflattering images), make up dripping down my face after the club, and friends scattered on the sidewalk with their shoes off. You ever see a picture of yourself and think: Jesus, what was I doing? Yea, those are my favorite. And looking back I don't feel ashamed or embarrassed about any of it (although like I said, not cute). I actually feel really happy that I let myself experience all of that. The silliness, the dumb decisions, the border line criminal activity- it was fun, and there was some form of freedom in allowing myself to experience it.
We're all grown up now (I don't know who authorized this), and I am grateful that I satisfied all my curiosities back then. Not to say there aren't things I want to explore and discover now, there are. But it's not the same. Back then I wanted to play with fire. I was thrill seeking, and pushing limits. I couldn't just enjoy a concert. No, I had to crowd surf, get dropped, then try again. Yes, I was that girl trying to get on stage. (Side note-- remember when raves were a thing? rolling and strobe lights, and neon paint? Makes me nauseous just thinking about it-- but to each its own, i just can't hang anymore).
My lifestyle has shifted immensely. Now I'm more into finding creative outlets, good books, nature, peaceful, quiet moments, family, friends, intimate conversations, etc, etc. (I'm still a sucker for some good live music though) But anyways, maybe I just maxed out my capacity for that life. It just feels too loud and dense for me now. So I've shifted from seeking excitement to finding joy. I've learned that you don't have to look far for that. It's really everywhere if you pay attention, it just took me some time to slow down and be present enough for it.
I think I've shared this somewhere on this blog before, but looking back to where I've been and where I am now has been one of the greatest ways for me to generate gratitude in my life. Hope it works for you <3