Nexus Point

I’m back at this place I know, I’ve been here before in other dreams. It’s a brick building that looks like a medical complex, but it’s placed in the middle of a residential neighborhood. It’s surely a blend of several places I’ve seen before, but I can’t identify any part of it.

What is this place? I ask myself.

“It’s a nexus point.” I hear immediately, in a very matter-of-fact response.

I watch as I move forward with my life, as if through a tunnel. As the days go by I meet new people and make new choices, veering this path one way or another. Each tiny action branches off into a potential new route, down to my choice of words, my work, hobbies, and relationships. At a certain point It ends.

Then I’m back at the beginning, back at the complex. I’ve seen the outcomes I don’t want and I can chose differently. I do just that and travel a little further down the trail to my greatest life path.

Shit! I hit another road black, and I start again. I get on one path that I know is so utterly misaligned that I just laugh and hit the reset button. "Nope! not trying to fix this." I say to myself.

I do this over and over, making significant progress each time. On one trail I find my truest love, on another I find how to leave my mark on the world. Each timeline unravels before me with different gifts, and slowly I find where to obtain them all. 

I stand back and look at this map I’ve created around me, all originating from this point. A neon blue light connects them like a web, and everything is at a stand still. Not only can I see the paths, I can see the people. I tap on an image of a man I’ve recently dated, and I can see how a particularly choice I made affected him in that moment, and from that I see his web branching out, and how that experienced pulsed him forward into his own new potential realities.  It’s like I’m playing with an interactive map. 

From my view I can see the intricate web of human connection. I can see the expanse of it all, and the ripple effects that stem from every single moment. It is delicate, and messy, and beautiful.

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I woke up with a new sense of awareness in how impactful my thoughts and actions are for my future and for the people around me, even the smallest, seemingly insignificant actions. I also woke up with this nagging thought of…”how many times are you going to loop back around before you get it right??” I have no idea, to be honest. But that path, the one where everything comes together, where I truly am my best self and have it all, it exists. And that's what I do know.

2021 Reflection

What this year has taught me:

(cue: "Seeing Things" by The Black Crowes--- really, listen to it after. great tune)

-There will always be people in my life who love me. There is an abundance of love in my life, from my family, from friends, etc. But not everyone will see or hear me. Not because they don’t want to, but because they can’t. They’re not meant to. They will love me in whatever capacity they can, and although it feels limited to me, it is genuine and real. I also am aware that there are people I have never seen before, and people that I still can’t hear. It's a very surreal feeling to see someone after some time passes and see them so differently because I'm in a different space.

-I learned to love from a distance. That I can care about people and remove myself from their life. I can be detached, and I can still love them, wish them well, and pray that they’re living their best life. I realize that people are likely loving me from where they are too. I am loved more than I know— we all are. What's even harder though, is being detached from the people who are in my life and in front of me. Feeling their unhappiness, for example, and not carrying these emotions as my own. Or choosing to not help them when they're falling because they are either unreceptive to help or because I simply cannot help them.

-I saw the stories I was a character of. There was a plot that kept playing over and over on repeat and I couldn’t understand why, until I saw the story from a different perspective— as an observer. Then I could see my role in the plot, and how I perpetuated the same conflict, climax, and ending. I was responding the same way in each chapter, and consequently, nothing changed. I learned that I can choose differently, I can change the story. Knowing you can is one thing, doing it is another.

-I learned that I can not change people, and that they don't have to change for us to have a different relationship. When I change my perspective, when I dropped my expectations of people, the relationship changes on its own. I can drop my judgment of them and the idea of who I want them to be, and accept them as is. Then we can just enjoy each other. Then we are free to have a real relationship.

-I found the answers to my questions. Or more so, I learned who to ask. It’s me. My body can feel what’s right or wrong immediately, and my mind often only knows in hindsight. I learned to use them both, and it’s a beautiful partnership. Did I always listen? No. Did I continue to make mistakes? Yes. But I learned from them, and accepted that I am human.

-I’ve learned to speak my truth. Which is more than being honest with myself and the people around me. It’s a strange sensation, like I cannot hold back what I feel needs to be said. There is a time and place, of course, so social awareness is key, but I can’t bury it like I used to. My old mindset of “it’s not important, it doesn’t matter” is gone. It is important and not sharing it could be a huge disservice to myself and the people who need to hear it.

-I learned to just be. This is a big one for me. I found that I did not need to work to feel of value, or hit some new exercise record to feel accomplished, or to meditate to feel peace, or travel to feel excitement. I don’t need a relationship to feel love. (Doesn’t mean that I don’t want these things, I do, I just don’t need them). I don’t need something to look forward to, or memories to hang onto. Now is perfect, and experiencing that is enough. It is enough to just be me. After feeling that and embodying it, I’ve transitioned into doing more things that bring me joy. I am still doing just as much as I used to, it’s just coming from a different place.

-This year I lived outside my comfort zone. That's where I found growth and fun and presence. Some of those things: I did an Emotional Healing Retreat in New Mexico, posed for a 2022 lingerie calendar for a local artist, practiced Marconics (energy healing), started playing the piano again (after 20 years), joined a softball team (first time after breaking my collar bone in 2019), started writing again (in this blog and beyond that), got a roommate, invested in Crypto, moved to Plano, road tripped from Arizona to Texas, learned about Holistic dentistry, practiced fasting, started dating again, and took time off work. I still have a week with my brother and his kids, a girls trip to Austin, a new job to start, and I am hosting Christmas at my place for the first time. 

-I learned that being alone is better than being with people who bring you down. Not that they are “bad” people, but people who drain my energy. I used to think that something was better than nothing. That being with someone was better than no one, so I latched on to anyone and everyone. But I’ve seen that once I close one door that’s not meant for me, another will open. That what’s truly best for me can only come along when I make space for it. 

-I learned that growth is not linear. On a recent job interview, the employer never showed. I thought, huh, he must have gotten held up with a patient. A friend doesn't call me back and I hope they're okay. I give them the benefit of the doubt; it's not about me, people have their own shit going on. Another day I'm raging about someone who's forgotten an arranged meeting. Everything feels personal, and i sink into this victim mentality, like "I've been stood up, they don't respect my time, they don't respect me" until I'm spiraling in my own anger, then sorrow. But mid tantrum I stand back and look at myself, like "what are you doing? what is this really about?" And i can see again. I regress, but I'm aware of it. And again, I move forward.

-I learned to accept good things. Why am I so shocked when good things come to me or when everything works out? I've learned to accept that I deserve good things. ALL OF THEM. It's not "too good to be true," it's just good. There's no catch, I'm not waiting for the other shoe to drop. I've listened to that story for too long. Things are just good, and that's how they should be. 

-This is trippy, but I've been able to separately see my true thoughts and feelings and my ego. You know that nagging voice in your head that chimes in with the shittiest comments? Well, recently, when that voice came in, I was alarmed, and thought "who the fuck is that?" I can see that it is not me, and just a pre-programmed response that's trying to keep me where I've always been. Here's an example: I was spending time with a guy I like, and once we parted ways I heard, "Meh, I don't really know if I want that." This was shocking to me because we had a great time. Then I realized, ahhh, things are good, this is the part when I run, or hide, or self sabatoge. But that isn't me anymore (as mentioned above, I'm here for all the good things). It was a painful moment because I instantly saw how many life decisions I'd made from following this voice. I had thrown away a lot of great opportunities. But it was also beautiful, because here I am and I'm not doing it anymore!

-I’ve understood the true meaning of faith. Leaving my job with nothing else lined up, for example, knowing that what’s meant for me will come along. I’ve always had a plan, a back up plan, a structured life, routine, I never put all my eggs in one basket. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not sitting on my couch hoping someone knocks with a job offer, and blowing through my savings either. But I’ve discerned the difference between “being responsible” and functioning from a place of fear. It is not always easy, but I’m doing it anyway. 

8:12 (not a dream)

I was on my way home from WhiteRock lake. I was happy that my softball game got cancelled so I could go running, but then pissed that the lake was closed off for a race (A race I wanted to do but didn’t sign up for because I had softball.) Anyway, I had to go Norbuck Park to cut through, which meant Route 12 was my closest way home. This is how the story begins.

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I’m cruising down route 12, trying to avoid the notifications firing off on my phone. The girls group chat is non stop, Christina sends me a page of the book she’s reading, and my mom’s usual “how was your day?” pops up on my phone. It’s easy to ignore because I’m not interested today; not in running, not in softball, not in talking to anyone. 

Kings of Leon is seeping out my windows in exchange for a brisk autumn breeze. The sky is black and I'm guided forward in a school of red weaving taillights. My body hasn’t gotten used to the shortened days yet, or the sudden drop in temp. It’s just passed 7pm and I feel drained. It seems like October is always rough for me. 

The cars in front of me come to a rapid halt, and I thank God I’d put my phone down. 

Why is there traffic at this time? 

Dallas traffic was the first thing people mentioned back when I told them I was new to the city. It was a commonality that seemed to bring people together. If you didn’t know how to strike up conversation at a bar, talk about the Tollway, or your commute home on 635. You’ll hit it off, guaranteed. I just laughed at it. They had clearly never been to Boston.

I was parked now. Everyone was parked except the people now using the emergency lane to slide by. I stuck my head out the window and saw who was holding us up; it was a red dodge charger a few cars ahead of me. And…what is that in the road?

I got out to see if anyone needed help, two other guys did too. As the scene became clearer, I started running. The front of the car was smashed, the windshield was shattered, and both air bags filled the two front seats. The driver was pacing back and forth on the phone.  A body laid motionless on the pavement.

“Hey, what happened, are you okay?” I asked. 

“I didn’t see him, I didn’t see him, it was so dark,” he said, looking beyond me. “Have I done CPR? No. I don’t know how to do CPR,” he answered into his phone. 

I saw an image of me frozen outside my bathroom door at UMASS, a paramedic yelling at me “Did you at least try doing CPR?” 

Not again, I thought, moving closer to the man in the road,  I can help him. The other two guys followed.

But I couldn’t help him. One of the guys checked for a pulse at his neck, then his wrist, then at his neck again. The man was unresponsive. His face was pressed against the pavement, and one eye was fixed staring straight ahead, while the other oozed with blood. His pants had been dragged down to his knees, which rested at odd angles. His neck was displaced and it was clear he’d have no airway even if we tried. 

“He’s gone man,” he said. The other guy was directing traffic. “Nothing we can do.” And then they left.

The driver came back to me.

“I didn’t see him man,” he said, his hands now interlaced on his head. “It was so dark, I couldn’t see him.”  It was dark. There wasn’t a single street light or sign around us. I could barely see my car from where I stood. 

“Hey what’s your name?” I asked.

“Eric,” he told me.

“Okay Eric,” I said. “This is a highway and it’s pitch black out. Nobody would have seen him.”

He nodded, “I was just driving home man, I just live up the street,” he said. He wasn’t hearing me, he was in shock.

I could feel it being muffled for him despite the sirens wailing around us, and the firetruck’s horn obnoxiously held down to scare cars aside, and the traffic on the other side of the divide. I also watched this scene as if it were on mute and at a distance. It was different though, I saw two simultaneously overlapping scenes.

Paramedics and cops flooded my dorm hall, yelling questions I couldn’t answer. “What did he take? How old is he? Does he have any medical conditions? Allergies?” I didn’t even know his last name. They were stern and loud, I could see now, not out of anger, but because I was hearing them as if underwater.

A parade of red and blue lights started filling in and closing off the street, and I turned to Eric. “Look,” I started, “they’re going to ask you a ton of questions, they just need to know what happened. You’ll be okay.” 

“Wait,” he said frantically. “Wait, can you wait with me please?” 

I saw myself walking back into the overturned dorm room, pacing around just like Eric. I ripped the caution tape off the front door and cleaned the room to look like it had the day before. I stashed anything that was Charlie’s into a bag and sat up in my bed all night, alone, waiting until it felt safe to fall asleep.

“Okay,” I said, “Is there anyone you can call? Do you have family here?”

“Yea,” he answered, “my sister’s on her way.”

I waited and watched Eric pace, and call his mom on the phone, and plea his innocence to her, to me, to the cops, and to himself. 

Eric moved under the weight of an inescapable guilt. He didn’t push the man into the road. No one in their right mind would cross this street here. And I didn’t put a needle in Charlie’s arm. Yet here we were, two mirrors standing straight in front of each other, peering into an endless hall of misplaced responsibility for not saving people who could not save themselves.

I gave my story to multiple cops, and waited even though they didn’t need me. I wondered how long Eric would let this guilt chip away at him, and if he’d move through life differently. Here I was, 11 years after Charlie died, still trying to redeem myself. I leaned back against my car, seeing the whole scene in a birds eye view. I lingered here to help Eric, because I had been here before, because I could feel what he felt, because I hadn’t forgiven myself, because I hadn't let go.

I motioned that I was leaving. This was for Eric to sort through now. 

“Hey, thanks for waiting with me, I appreciate you,” he said, shaking my hand.

“I hope you know there’s nothing you could’ve done,” I said to him and to the version of me that he embodied. 

“I hope you get some rest,” I said, and left it all behind.

A Lost Traveler (dream within a dream)

I unpacked my bag and placed my clothes in the drawers closest to the bed. The stained wooden bureau was the only touch of color in the room. Who makes a hotel room completely white? I pulled out running clothes for every climate imaginable, undergarments, and socks. I was only here for the half marathon, and apparently had clothes for nothing else.

I stared at my small duffle, wondering where my mind was when deciding that I was done packing. My thoughts wandered back, but were abruptly halted by a knock at the door.

Who is that? I thought. It was far too late for housekeeping.

I jumped over my stuff to answer the door and swung it open. Will was standing on the other side, bag in hand. We both stood for a moment, doing a mental double take. What is happening?

I froze in the doorway, catching the breath that'd fallen out of me.

“What are you doing here?” I asked, trying not to sound offensive.

“My Airbnb reservations got cancelled,” he said, just as surprised as I was, “and I was rerouted here.” 

He wore his jet lag well. I could see that his journey had been long and convoluted. I stepped aside and let him in. 

He immediately dropped his bag to the floor and and stripped off his coat. “I guess I’m stuck with you,” he said sarcastically. We both laughed. What are the odds? 

We each claimed sides of the queen side bed and passed out almost immediately. Despite our drawn out boundaries, I could feel the bed rise and fall with his breath, and the heat coming off of his skin. 

Suddenly I slipped into a dream. A movie really, where I watched moments of another life. The short clips were like home videos glitching through time; Will and me warming up for the race, him meeting my parents at a resort in Punta Cana, meeting my whole family actually, since we were there for a wedding. Marriage. Kids. A Spanish style home in the countryside turned into our own quiet oasis. 

I watched the story like a silent film. The restless pieces of me dissipated, and settled outside the edges of each passing frame. I could feel my own peace transferring over from the other side of the screen, and collected it like a souvineer. It warmed me like a blanket as I drifted deeper, past its end into a dark space of nothingness. I was gently pulled from my spectator's seat and shot straight up in my bed (my real bed), never having returned to the hotel. There was nothing left to observe or revisit, and I awoke with a satisfying sense of completion.

Newton Street (Dream)

This is where I dropped in:

I stood in the driveway with Jesse by my side. He was waiting for me to sign the papers. He looked from me to the real estate agent, and back to me. He wore the burgundy shorts and sleeveless black T I’d last seen him in. I’d been here before.

We were back at the condo on Newton Street. I’d toured it earlier this week and really liked the funky layout. Two bedrooms on the the second floor with the living room and kitchen on the third. It was like it’s own separate house that merged involuntarily with the other units. I hadn’t been sold on the black and white industrial design, it wasn’t really me. It was the trees I’d fallen for, the way they draped down in front of the place and lined the street in a vibrant green tunnel. And the silence. What a change.

“I’m not sure I want this place,” I said. I’d said it before.

“Well, I already got rid of my spot,” he said, “I planned to move in with you.”

My heart slammed against my chest wall and echoed in my ears.

Did we plan to live together? I thought. I searched my mind for a record of the conversation. Everything was blurry. I don’t know how I got here, how we got here. 

Thoughts came up quickly like acid in my throat. It’s like I’d stepped on a ride that was spinning too fast to jump off of now. 

I can’t just leave him on the street, I thought, he gave up his home for this. For me. 

I signed the papers.

In that moment I was suspended on the edge of the driveway, watching the scene from a distance. There was the celebratory hug, hand shaking with the realtor, and the transfer of keys. Then I watched time go by in rapid images, like a VHS on fast forward. Moving in, moving out, a new house, new neighborhood, new car. Jesse designing and creating towns, head of his own company, prosperous, wealthy, and consumed. Me, the supportive wife, quiet, and following. 

With each scene, I watched us check off all the boxes we learned we needed. I saw myself on that ride, spinning fast and unable to move. I was flat and stuck so tight against a wall that I didn’t notice the floor drop out from under me. 

“You don’t want this,” I heard, in my own voice. 

“You don’t want this,” I heard, the voice growing louder.

“You don’t want this!” it yelled, pulling me away from the cinematic experience. I turned away.

A petite, old woman approached me on the driveway as I watched the scenes blur together into a ball of mesh. She wasn’t alone, but her husband waited in the car.

Her hand landed like silk on my arm. I could see the veins beneath her thinning skin. A white ball of hair surrounded her head in a wavy afro -- the “old lady haircut,”— my brother and I called it. She was probably in her late 80’s. She watched with me for a moment, but had little interest in the story.

Wow, she can see it too? I thought. 

My focus was on her now. I took her in, I could feel her. She was frail but bright, small but full of energy. A hidden light. She looked at me with with sorrow, with eyes weighed down with regret, weary and tired from her journey. She turned to me, and smiled. With warmth, and love, she said to me, “You don’t want this.”

I looked beyond her at the movie that played out in front of me. It was a pretty nice life. I don’t want this, I confirmed. Even if i did, I don’t need it. I’ve experienced it already.

Shut Down (the shortest dream ever)

 I woke to what sounded like a computer shutting down, broadcasted on a megaphone. I could hear the gears slow down and the fans grow weak until the normal daily buzz was a deep, slow grunt, and then...silence. I sat up in my bed, and among neighboring columns and rows of apartment windows, I found no light, no people, no signs of life. Our society was in a state of darkness.

When I woke up for real, it was to this same scene, except I could spot the emergency light in the club room downstairs. I was relieved that it wasn't real. For now.

She's Arrived (by Krystal Martinez Quezada)

 

Hands tremble

The sound felt not heard

Sunken through the skin

Permeating the cells without word

A stirring is happening

Hold on tight

Something is coming

Fast, and with all its might

Tap, tap, my soul will say

Let it in

Open the gateway

Rush like a river rapid

Fierce and steady

Gripping faith like a rope, I am ready

And then there was a halt

A completion in formation

A resurrection and exaltation

And though I lay, I am standing tall

Eyes open for the time

For now I know, I-am-all

Longtime coming, who could've

known

Well surely only me, 

I HAVE ARRIVED HOME.

A Dream of Severance

I walked through the empty halls of my high school with Josh by my side, just as I had what feels like a lifetime ago. My partner left me at the door, understanding that I had to do this alone. This faceless, nameless man was the love of my life, my soul mate, my future, and so he waited patiently as I journeyed through my past.

I looked up at Josh, who hadn’t grown past 16. He was radiant, young, and full of life. So was I as I reinhabited my 15 year old body. We walked our familiar route through the K wing, as if he was walking me to class again. But he wasn’t. I was walking him, in what felt like slow motion. I was here to drop him off, knowing that I’d never see him again.

Nothing had changed around us. The lockers were mustard yellow with spots of scratched metal showing through. Instead of a mob of teenagers pushing past each other, it was just me and him, stepping forward in an empty space. We shared this air of happiness, liked we’d found each other after a lifetime of separation and were finally where we were meant to be. 

We pushed through the double doors in the H Wing, and arrived to his drop off spot. He turned to look at me and God, I felt 15 again. His eyes were warm and and fixed on me as if nothing else existed in that moment. And it didn’t. The tangible world faded away, and I remembered what it was to be consumed with love. My heart raced but I was calm, I was at peace and full of this tingling warmth. I felt like I was floating, only for a moment.

“Thank you for bringing me here,” he said, “where I belong.”

We hugged with a knowing that this was the last goodbye, the last time our realities would intersect, that every possible form of connection between us would forever be severed. It was surprisingly joyful for both of us, like we’d both been set free. 

I turned away to meet my boyfriend, who was leaning against the exit door ahead of me. I grabbed his hand and he asked me how it went. He asked me if I still loved him. 

“He was my first love, a part of me will always love him.” I explained. “But now we are on our own, true paths.” 

He grabbed my hand and we walked outside to a beautiful, sunny day. We stepped blissfully into our future, into a new life together, leaving Josh to spend his life in prison.

A Dream of Two Worlds

Again, I dropped into this dream in an instant. I was in a large empty space, facing two doorways in front of me. Each frame was outlined with a bright white rim, and instead of doors, the entry points were shielded with a thick layer of clear mesh. I couldn’t see beyond it, it was like looking at static on a tv screen.

I stepped one foot through the doorway on the left, and left the other half of myself anchored outside. The world I saw in front of me resembled the one we live in now. Except, the air was full of smog, and gave a gray tint to the city and the people. Crowds of people moved forward, engaged in manual labor. Their clothes and faces were smeared with this dark dirt or oil, and their bodies were hunched towards the floor as if they lacked the strength to overcome gravity. Nobody made eye contact, nobody spoke, or smiled, or sang. They just kept moving forward like hamsters on a wheel. I thought of the people I loved, my friends, and family all lost in this twisting and turning maze that led to nowhere. I felt the heaviness of this space, and knew I couldn’t stay here, not even to look for them.

I felt relief in returning back to the empty space. I felt like me again, despite the sadness I had just seen. 

I stepped cautiously through the next door, not knowing what to expect. This one is harder to describe. I saw endless green hills, covered in patches of flowers and trees of different colors. Some were purple and orange, with long branches or fluffy leaves. I could feel the brightness of the colors vibrating through my skin. The sky was bright pink streaked with yellow rays from the sun. Everything was illuminated and hazy, and the people were scattered everywhere, just resting and laughing together. Instantly, I was tingling with warmth and love. My whole being felt light, and I laughed. This choice was easy.

I was kicked back out into the space and woke up in my room. It was 5am and the sun was rising into the new day. My room was flooded with the pink and orange light that filled the sky. And I smiled and thought, “I  made it. I am here.” 

Sunday Cycling

The first ten minutes of my ride is like traveling to the starting line. I’m dodging traffic in the center of Dallas, hoping to not get driven off the road. On Sunday mornings, though, the streets are bare. Only the birds are up, singing their tunes to the rising sun. The city feels post- apocalyptic, like it will never recover from the reckless weekend. I am grateful just to feel the dawn of a new day. I swerve down the center of Maple Ave, and move quickly past Oak Lawn without stopping. 

Climbing up the Katy is what wakes my body up. The stiffness in my legs shoots up my hips in back to back alarms. I push through my petals like trudging through thick mud. I rotate through various gears, but feel like I’m getting nowhere. The start is always a struggle, I remind myself, and I know it will subside. My  breath quickens as I roll through a tunnel of hovering trees. In my slow pace, I greet runners and dog walkers. “Good morning,” I hear, from bikers passing by and mothers pushing toddlers back into a state of sleep. Some just smile, cherishing the silence. 

This is cycling; moving in a repetitive sequence of ordered motions. My feet start and end at the same point for hours, yet I hold no concept of time. My body works, but my mind is still. I travel around the lake, with my body propelling me forward like a machine, while I am just an observer, watching the world from above my seat. The trees are full now, and bursting in clusters of green. The grass stands tall after weeks of rain, and is running wild with weeds and flowers. I can barely see beyond it in some spots, and it makes me feel small. 

I’ll admit I’ve been so swept away by a falling leaf or a passing butterfly, that I’ve swerved off the trail and nearly into a pile of bushes. 

Most days I dismount my bike and drag it down to the shore. This is my favorite part. I lay down on a patch of grass, and feel the earth beneath me. My legs come back to me, and I feel them pulse with soreness, then slowly relax and rest. I watch the waves crash against the concrete steps that line the lake, but some days the water is perfectly still with no current at all. My breath slows and deepens as I watch the clouds form shapes above me. I am so heavy on the ground, it feels like I’m sinking into the dirt. I am so connected to the world around me that I can feel the trees branches swaying in the wind. It makes me warm and lightheaded, like I’m high. 

I used to stop for the birds, to watch them chase each other in the water, and fly to and from the floating dock. Some would dive face down for fish, while others floated away from their clan. I wondered what they did at night, or when it was cold or rainy. But they always did the only thing they knew how to do: just be. I was truly fascinated by them, until I truly understood. Now I stop for me, to enjoy the stillness, and to ground myself before heading back on my journey home.

A Broken Dream

This dream happened in a flash, like a minute of real time. 

I was sitting at a picnic table, the green ones that are made of metal mesh. He was on the other side, just looking at me. It felt like I’d dropped into the dream mid conversation, and he was waiting for me to respond. His eyes were fixed on mine. My eyes wandered though, scanning his lips and beard, while trying to remember how they felt on my face. His hair was long and lazily pushed back. I wanted to run my hands through it, but I knew how much he hated that. He watched me take him in and started smiling. I’ve never been subtle about my attraction to him, and this sudden scenario was overwhelming. His whole presence was overwhelming. 

Nervously, I blurted out some ridiculous, suggestive comment. Why hide what we both knew I was thinking? He leaned back and interlaced his hands behind his head as if wondering what to do with that. I waited. His knees were just inches from mine under the table and I could feel the space between us charged with electricity. 

“How about….” he started. I was antsy with anticipation. “…we go on a date.”

I’m not even sure I was breathing, “A date? A real date?” 

“Yes,” he confirmed.

My mind started going a mile a minute. A date, like starting over? Like a first date, part 2. Oh my God, what will I wear? I love that pink dress from my birthday that year, wait that was Leslie’s, wasn’t it? I’m pretty sure I borrowed it. Is a dress too much? No way, I’ve got to look hot. 

Stop. Breathe. 

We both got up from the table, and finally there was a plan. There was real hope, real potential for something, for anything. I left to get ready, and don't even remember walking away. I was consumed in my joy and relief. I was shocked and elated all at the same time. God, I can’t wait to tell Karina about this, I thought, laughing. I couldn't contain my happiness.

And then, came the worst part of this dream…. I woke up.

Dreaming at the Speed of Light (Recent Dream)

“Get on, lets go.” I was directed. I couldn’t identify who was talking to me, but I heard the urgency in the message. “This is our last chance to go.” I moved forward in blind faith. Wherever we were going had to be better than here. I knew this to be true, and there was no room for fear or hesitation. I was here for a reason and the choice had been made.

I stepped onto the ship to take the last available seat. The vessel resembled a plane without wings. It was oval and hollow on the interior except for two rows of seats on either side with small windows above them. Nothing separated us from the cockpit, so I could see everything ahead of us. 

I barely buckled my seat belt before the ship took off. It rumbled as we broke away from the ground and lifted into the sky. We ascended at such a rapid speed that in seconds I could see the clouds surrounding us, then the pitch black sky. 

“Wait, where are we going?” I asked. I’d never flown high enough to see the stars beneath me. I was thinking out loud, and no one was paying attention. Looking out of my window I saw Earth drift steadily away. It was beautiful. The bright blue and green planet was wrapped in a blanket of clouds. I could see pieces of the sea and the land that I had called home.

As we pushed forward, the vast, dark space around us was filled with large white stars. They were everywhere.  I leaned forward and asked the pilot, “How are you not hitting the stars?” I thought of playing Starfox with Albert on the N64, and I’d always lose a life by not dodging some meteor in front of me. How could this be different?

As soon as I posed the question, we accelerated again. This time I could feel my body suctioned back into the cushion behind me. The stars in my periphery transitioned from white masses to streaks of light, until it felt like we were pulsing forward through a tunnel. We were traveling at the speed of light.

I watched in awe as we defied any physics I’d learned in school. The ship moved forward effortlessly, until we reached an unseen barrier. The tunnel turned into a dense, gray, fog and I felt the resistance slowly push against us. It was like swimming through molasses; we’d move forward some, then slow down to reset. The ship shook and creaked as we struggled through the turbulence. I sat with my eyes closed, talking to myself in my head. “Breathe. We’ll be okay. Breath.” For a moment I thought “Well, this is it,” and I started to pray. Eventually, we broke through to the other side, and were back in the stillness of a calm night’s sky.

The ship got ready to land as we approached a new planet. I couldn’t wait to get off. We touched down and were released at what seemed like a bus stop. I was happy to see my mom and brother file out behind me. We hugged and laughed, letting the joy flow between us. We made it.

We took our place in this little town surrounded by green mountains and lakes. It felt like a summer day on Earth, except the sun gave everything a hazy glow. We came with nothing, just the clothes on our bodies. But we didn't need anything here. The sun didn’t beat down in an exhausting heat, and the air was comfortable and still. There were no delegated jobs, there was no money; just people living and playing. This was Peace.

The first person I saw was Alex standing on a wooden dock near the lake. He hadn’t changed at all except for his hair, which was long and pulled back in a bun. “This is where he’s been all these years,” I thought. I’d failed to connect with him since we’d parted ways, and I’d wondered where he was and how he was doing. I approached him, and he smiled like he was happy to see me here. 

“How long have you been here?” I asked him. He couldn’t answer. I don’t think he had any sense of time. 

“I’m not sure, but I know I’m leaving tomorrow,” he responded. 

“You’re leaving??” I asked, “Leaving to where?” Of course he’s not staying now that I’m here. 

“Back to Earth,” he answered.

I was confused. I looked at the world around me, wondering why anyone would want to leave. Everything felt vibrant and warm. I saw people walking together, chatting and laughing like children. Everyone seemed so light and care free. 

Then I said to myself, “Is this all just temporary?”